Healthy Living With Half the Headache
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1. Thoughts From the Life Coach
How can I find my life’s purpose?
The answer is in the form of a few questions:
- What do you love to do?
- How do you like to feel?
- What are your gifts and strengths?
Ask yourself these questions and then LISTEN to your answer. The answers are inside us. We just need to ask the right questions.
If you still struggle in believing your answers, ask someone. You may or may not agree with them, but remember not to take it personally. It is just an opinion. But it is a good starting point. It will point out what you may or may not know by whether or not you agree with them.
Trust yourself! No one knows you better than you.
And remember, all life’s purposes don’t create a financial windfall. But that doesn’t make your life’s purpose any less valuable to the world. Sometimes our life’s purpose turns out to be a hobby or just a state of mind. Your gift may be in your ability to listen. There is great value in giving a non-judgmental ear. It may even save a life.
How can you put your gift to good use?
Determine your gifts or strengths, your passions and what makes you feel happy. Once you do, the answer to your life’s purpose may be staring at you right in the face.
2. Healthy Living With Half the Headache
Orleatha Smith is a certified holistic life coach who owns “Level Health & Nutrition.” Today, she talks to us about healthy living, sharing her own life experiences. Her tips and techniques will help all of us.
Orleatha explains that we are not just one layer, we are multiple layers. In order to be whole, we have to address ALL of the layers.
Orleatha was sick a lot of her life. She was born a late baby, covered with eczema, had asthma, allergy issues…just a bunch of issues. As she got older, she gained weight and even ended up having gastric bypass surgery. After that, she lost weight, but her upper health issues were still not resolved. She was still sick.
She discovered rule # 1: Being small (losing weight) isn’t always healthy.
It is about finding out your purpose. Connections between your mental health and emotional health play a role in your physical well-being.
Orleatha’s relationships suffered because she didn’t realize this. When you do come to the realization that you are capable of love and being loved however you are, you start to become more confident in who you really are.
You are able to say,
“This is who I am, this is it. I am happy with that.”
It might be something else besides weight that you may be struggling with; some other condition that is manifesting in your life. It may be a reflection of what you thinking about yourself and attracting these relationships that are reinforcing whatever it is that you are thinking. Negative thoughts only reinforce you are not enough.
It is an inside out approach. There is something going on inside that you need to address and once you address that, then the things on the outside will change.
The feeling of wanting to be more, or not being enough, comes from what happened in our childhood. There is hope.
Nobody is perfect. Everyone has a story. You can use it as a crutch or use it as a springboard to help you propel to the next level.
If you feel that something is going on inside, identify what is going on internally. The first step is committing to be honest; painfully honest, even if it is just with you. “I did this.” “I feel this way.” Or even starting from the outside…“I just ate a box of Twinkies. Why did I eat that?”
Ask yourself “The Five Why’s…”
Why did you eat that?
“I ate it because I was hungry.”
Why were you hungry (because you just ate an hour ago!)?
“Well, I was hungry because…well, I wasn’t really hungry, I guess I was bored.”
Why were you bored?
“Cause I don’t have anybody to talk to.”
Why do you need someone to talk to?
“Because I am not comfortable with myself.”
There it is.
Ask “why” and you can get to the root of it.
Why am I not exercising?
Why am I having these conflicts with my children?
Why am I having this fight with my spouse?
Why am I not sleeping?
It might not be about the husband, but about exhaustion or hunger instead. If you look at it, you can figure it out.
And when you get to the bottom of it, it also makes it easier to say I am sorry. It creates trust in relationships. Once you realize that you know you are wrong, you will apologize. Because they know that if you are not apologizing, you don’t even know that you did anything wrong.
Help me understand.
Help me understand does not mean I accept it. It means that I want to come to a level playing field so I can see where you are coming from. I am not passing judgment, I am saying I don’t understand.
When you are being stubborn, you are being judgmental. When emotions are high, understanding is LOW. You don’t have to be right, you just need to understand.
How does a busy parent do it?
Tip: You are not perfect. You don’t have to be perfect. You do not have to do it all. You do not have to do it all right now.
Find what is most important to you. Is it family, your children, your husband? Once you find that center, then you can choose to make choices based on what is most important.
In Orleatha’s case, the most important thing is her family. They had the spiritual part down, but not eating healthy. Her next question then was what health choices could she make right now that are going to benefit her family? And it started with her.
If you don’t know what’s most important…if you are not sure if it is your job, or your career…then you do not have a center.
If your job is the most important, what are you going to do to move to the next level? Are you going to take some classes? Are you going to start volunteering at other departments to learn different pieces of the trade?
Do not become sedentary. Wherever you have found comfort is where nothing is going to grow.
Be present. It is a lifelong process. This is a journey, it is not a destination. It is learning as you grow and enjoying where you are.
3. The Family Law News
In this week’s segment, Attorney Matt Storrs talks about Massachusetts State Senator Richard Ross’ newest proposed bill that would prevent parties in a divorce from beginning a sexual relationship with a new partner for at least 120 days.